Being Married While in Physician Assistant School

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A lot of people seem to be curious about how PA School works while being married.  I have to admit, this question always catches me off guard.  I think a lot of people believe that being married during PA School is too stressful and hard on the relationship, but I have found quite the opposite to be true.  I think being married makes PA School even easier!

Here’s why:

1.  You have a constant support system.  I can’t tell you how many times I have come home from classes and I just needed a huge hug from my hubby.  He also keeps me grounded.  When I start freaking out about exams he gently reminds me of what is really important and how to look at the bigger picture.

2.  You have a patient to practice on 24/7!  Dennis has been subjected to so many exams, and he is always more that happy to help.  He always tells me, “do whatever you need.”  Unfortunately for him that means getting his blood pressure checked 20 times in a week and his reflexes checked over and over again (and you don’t always hit the right spot the first time around….).

3.  There is someone there to pick up the slack.  A lot of priorities get shifted while in PA School, and I am so thankful I have someone at home who can wash the dishes or start a load of laundry.

4.  Marriage means you get to share the PA School experience.  I usually practice my oral exams on Den, and the other morning at breakfast he started telling our friends about all the different types of strokes and the pathophysiology behind them.  I sat there smiling and totally amazed at what he had just learned.

5.  It’s just awesome.  I love being married and I love PA School.  Putting the two together just makes life more fun.


Don’t believe everything you hear.  You can have a life while in PA School and you can be married during PA School.  Everything and everyone does not get sacrificed.  Priorities do shift, but you find a new balance (and maybe a better life balance).  If you and your spouse are committed, than this is just another step in the journey and I think you will find the adventure is quite worthwhile.


If you liked this post check out my other post on marriage and PA school:  here.

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  1. Thank you so much for posting this. I am married and will be applying to PA school next month, so it is so nice to read about how well the two work together!

  2. I am so glad I found your blog! I was recently accepted into a program and will begin in August. I am also married, and have been getting more nervous about balancing everything as the beginning of school approaches. This makes me feel so much better! What school are you attending?

  3. Ashleigh says:

    Starting classes next month and this post makes the hubs and I both so relieved. Thanks!!

  4. Sara, How do you and your husband work out possible feelings of neglect? AKA you’re at school all day and have to come home and study? How did you find the balance? Some schools talk a lot about having “cohort” events and such, does your school have these? If so, how do you manage that while also being married?

    • I am working on a post to answer these questions Meg. Check back next week.

    • It’s natural to feel a bit unrequited. But what tour PAS spouse is doing is so important and there is an end insight! And when that end comes you will be stronger and have such a deep appreciation for what you both endured. Hang on to that and your feelings of neglect will diminish 😉

  5. Thank you for writing about this. My fiancé is currently waiting to see if he got accepted or not into PA school. I’m nervous about the start of a new marriage & PA school. Especially since the majority is women.

  6. Denisse says:

    WOW! this eased my mind a bit more. Im recently married (became a part time step mom too) and still working on my bachelors and want to attend PA school. But I had the doubt in my mind that all would be possible. I am lucky I have a husband full of patience but I don’t want to take advantage. Now that I have read this I see it is possible. If you have any tips on ho to make it all work, please share 🙂

  7. My husband is currently 9 weeks into PA school, and I gave birth to our 4th child only two weeks before classes started. Our children are 7,6,3 & 10 wks old. Each day is literally a day of grace. We either have the grace to enjoy our situation or the grace to endure it. It’s exhausting… Utterly exhausting and testing our marriage for sure, but at the end of the day I am so proud of my husband- and I know he feels the same about me. We love each other unconditionally, and no matter what our circumstances are, that is what keeps our boat afloat. And he is doing SO well! Pulling great grades and still finding time to love on his family ❤️ not a lot of time, but quality over quantity. When he is here at home with us, he is really here.

    • A few practical tips for squeezing in a little extra time together: pack a home cooked meal for your PAS spouse, meet them on campus for a picnic dinner/study break. Book staycations when you can. One night at a local hotel and when a break between semesters comes- get away for a few nights! As for the day to day. Give each other the benefit of the doubt and keep the communication lines open and gracious.

  8. BrittanyDCouch says:

    This Post truly helped me, I felt as if I would be too stressed out for PA school! I didn’t want to put any pressure on my marriage but this is wonderful and so true:) so Im beyond excited now and knowing that it will be another journey with my husband!

  9. Kristen Cody says:

    I love this article! I’m in my undergrad right now and was starting to feel nervous about when the best time would be for me and my hubby to be to tie the knot. Finding your blog was a blessing! Can’t wait to keep reading. Congrats to you on all your success 🙂


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