Grace: Disposition to or an act or instance of kindness, courtesy, or clemency; the quality or state of being considerate or thoughtful.
When Den and I got engaged we registered for Fiesta Dinnerware.
I think these dishes are amazing…you can bake in them, freeze them, reheat them. And they come in every color! So when we first got married I considered these my babies. I remember one day I dropped a plate on the floor and I cried and cried. Now I was missing a plate! The set wasn’t complete! And it was a green plate… I only had 2 sets of green plates!
At some point since that day I have realized that breaking a dish is not that big of a deal. This probably seems obvious to everyone else.
Well, the other day this lesson was tested. We were both standing in the kitchen and Den was getting a piece of toast out of the oven. I had my back to him when I hard the shattering of a plate. I turned around to see one of our plates shattered to pieces all over the floor. I realized in that moment I had two options: 1. I could get really mad at Dennis for being so careless. 2. I could show him grace by immediately telling him that it was ok and helping him start picking up the broken pieces.
Guess which option I choose?
I had grace on him. And you know what? The anger disappeared immediately. I realized I could have easily been the one to drop the plate. I think preparing my response in advance really helped too. I had already settled in my mind that anything in my kitchen…if it gets dropped, or broken or misused that I am not going to get upset about it. We have the ability to replace anything we own and showing my husband grace is worth much more than a $5 salad plate.
This lesson is so freeing, for me and for him. I don’t have to worry about things getting broken and he doesn’t have to fear me getting upset. I think this lesson can be applied in any area that you struggle showing grace to your spouse…like in driving (I may need to work on that one. I am a total backseat driver at times), doing chores (does it matter how he folds the towels? at least he is helping), spending money (he paid full price? instead I should be grateful he wanted to do something nice for me), and so many other areas…
Check out others in the series:
- Pay Attention to Wise Advice
- Pre-planning Grace
- Great Expectations
- Family Matters
- Finding a New Normal
- Date Night